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Buying your first sex toy is exciting, but it can also be overwhelming if you’re not sure what to look for (or what to avoid). Whether you’re shopping online or in-store, these common mistakes can turn what should be a fun, empowering experience into a frustrating one.

Here are 5 mistakes first-time buyers often make and how to make sure you don’t.

🚫 Mistake #1: Choosing the Cheapest Toy You Can Find

It’s tempting to grab a $10 vibe from a bargain site or adult store shelf. But cheap toys are often made with unsafe materials, weak motors and unreliable batteries.

What to do instead: Choose a toy made from body-safe silicone with verified quality. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but expect to invest at least $40–$60 for a solid beginner toy.

🚫 Mistake #2: Buying a Toy That’s Too Big or Intense

If you’re new to toys, that giant rabbit vibrator with 20 speeds might look exciting, but it could feel overwhelming or even uncomfortable.

What to do instead: Start small. Look for a simple bullet vibrator or slim external toy with low-to-medium intensity and basic controls. You can always level up later.

🚫 Mistake #3: Skipping the Material Check

Not all toys are created equal. Some are made of porous or potentially toxic materials (like jelly rubber or “love skin”) that can harbor bacteria or break down over time.

What to do instead: Look for toys labeled as “100% body-safe silicone,” “ABS plastic,” or “non-porous.” Avoid toys that feel sticky, smell strong or don’t list materials.

🚫 Mistake #4: Ignoring Your Preferences

Don’t buy a toy just because a friend swears by it or it has thousands of 5-star reviews. Everyone’s body is different and what works for someone else might not work for you.

What to do instead: Ask yourself what kind of stimulation you enjoy: clitoral? Internal? Gentle or strong? Let your comfort guide your purchase, not just trends.

🚫 Mistake #5: Forgetting Lube and Cleaning

Buying a great toy is just the first step. Skipping lube can make things uncomfortable and not cleaning your toy can lead to irritation or infection.

What to do instead: Always pair toys with water-based lube (especially for silicone toys), and wash them before and after use with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner.

💡 Final Thoughts

Choosing your first toy should be a positive, pressure-free experience. By avoiding these common mistakes, you’ll be well on your way to exploring pleasure in a way that feels safe, informed and exciting.

Still unsure? Check out our Beginner’s Guide to Choosing Your First Vibrator for step-by-step help or reach out with questions anytime.