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Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys – Part 8

Strokers and masturbators are often marketed just to men and usually in a way that makes them look cheap or cheesy. But the truth is, they’ve come a long way. Today’s options range from discreet, travel-friendly sleeves to high-tech, app-controlled machines that can mimic almost any sensation you want.

They’re not only great for solo play, they can also be an incredible addition to partnered sex.

Why Try Strokers & Masturbators?

• Enhanced Sensation: Textures, suction, and vibration can add variety to your routine.
• Control Over Intensity: You decide the pace, depth, and pressure.
• Partner Play Potential: A partner can use it on you as part of foreplay or during sex.
• Discreet Options: Many designs don’t look like body parts at all.

Main Types of Strokers & Masturbators

1. Manual Strokers (Sleeves)

• What They Are: Soft tubes (often silicone or TPE) with textured interiors, moved by hand.
• Best For: Beginners and those who want full control.
• Examples: Tenga Egg, Fleshlight Quickshot.
• Beginner Tip: Start with a smaller, open-ended sleeve for easy cleaning.

2. Full-Size Masturbators

• What They Are: Larger strokers, often with a casing and more complex textures.
• Best For: People wanting a more “realistic” feel or intense texture variety.
• Examples: Fleshlight Original, Kiiroo Keon Manual Mode.
• Beginner Tip: Use a water-based lube generously for comfort and glide.

3. Automatic Strokers

• What They Are: Motorized toys that provide thrusting, rotation, or vibration.
• Best For: Hands-free pleasure or long-distance control.
• Examples: Autoblow A.I., Kiiroo Keon with interactive sleeves.
• Beginner Tip: Check the noise level if discretion is important.

4. Suction Cup Mounts

• What They Are: Strokers that attach to surfaces for hands-free use.
• Best For: Shower play or more immersive positions.
• Examples: Fleshlight Shower Mount, Lovehoney Suction Stroker.
• Beginner Tip: Ensure the surface is clean and smooth for strong suction.

5. Specialty Strokers

• What They Are: Toys with unique textures, dual openings, or fantasy designs.
• Best For: Sensation seekers and adventurous play.
• Examples: Bad Dragon Vector, Tenga Spinner series.
• Beginner Tip: Test different textures to find what feels best for you.

Beginner-Friendly Picks (affiliate-friendly examples)

1. Tenga Egg Variety Pack – Affordable, discreet, and single-use or light reusable.
2. Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage – Compact, open-ended design.
3. Kiiroo Keon + Feel Stroker – App-controlled with interactive content.
4. Tenga Spinner Shell – Twists with movement for a unique feel.
5. Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit – Designed to help improve endurance.

Tips for First Time Use

• Warm It Up: Place the sleeve in warm water before use for a more realistic feel.
• Experiment with Lube: Different lubes can change the sensation dramatically.
• Clean Immediately: Use warm water and toy cleaner to avoid bacteria buildup.
• Include Your Partner: Let them control the stroker or use it during oral for variety.

Part 9 will be Sex Furniture 101: Positioning, Comfort & Creativity, where we’ll explore wedges, swings, benches, and other tools that can transform your space and your sex life, by making positions easier, more comfortable, and a whole lot more fun.