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Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys – Part 4

Couples’ toys get a bad rap.
They’re either marketed with way too much cheesy romance energy or they’re so awkward in design that no one actually uses them twice.

But when you find the right ones? They can completely change how you connect, play, and orgasm together.

This guide will walk you through what couples’ toys actually work in the real world, what to look for as beginners, and how to avoid the “it looked good in the ad” disappointment.

Why Try Couples’ Toys?

• Shared Pleasure: Both partners get stimulation.
• New Sensations: Combines things you can’t physically do alone.
• Keeps the Connection: Lets you be playful and experimental without losing intimacy.

Main Types of Couples’ Toys

1. Wearable Vibrators

• What They Are: C- or U-shaped toys worn inside during penetration to stimulate the G-spot and clit.
• Best For: Penetrative sex where both want to feel vibrations.
• Examples: We-Vibe Chorus, Satisfyer Double Joy.
• Beginner Tip: Start on the lowest setting and make sure it fits snugly before adding movement.

2. App-Controlled Toys

• What They Are: Toys controlled through a smartphone app, can be used across the room or across the world.
• Best For: Long-distance couples or public play.
• Examples: Lovense Lush 3, We-Vibe Jive.
• Beginner Tip: Test the connection at home before taking it out in public (trust me on this).

3. Vibrating Cock Rings for Couples

• What They Are: Rings worn at the base of the penis with a motor to stimulate the clit or perineum.
• Best For: Couples who want both erection support and clitoral stimulation during penetration.
• Examples: Lelo Tor 2, Hot Octopuss Atom Plus.
• Beginner Tip: Place the vibrating motor on top for clit play or flip it underneath for perineum stimulation.

4. Remote-Controlled Bullets & Eggs

• What They Are: Discreet vibes that can be inserted or worn externally, controlled by a small remote.
• Best For: Teasing during foreplay or on date night.
• Examples: Dame Pillo Bullet, Lovense Ferri.
• Beginner Tip: Agree on a signal to stop or turn down vibrations if they get too intense in public.

5. Dual-Use Toys

• What They Are: Toys designed for both solo and couples’ play, think wand massagers, suction vibes, or strokers.
• Best For: Couples who want versatility.
• Examples: Magic Wand Rechargeable, Satisfyer Pro 2.
• Beginner Tip: Try using it on your partner first before they use it on you, the build-up is half the fun.

Beginner-Friendly Picks (affiliate-friendly examples)

1. We-Vibe Chorus – Adjustable fit, strong vibrations, squeeze remote.
2. Lovense Lush 3 – Wearable, app-controlled, perfect for public play.
3. Lelo Tor 2 – Luxury vibrating cock ring for shared stimulation.
4. Hot Octopuss Atom Plus – Powerful dual-motor couples’ ring.
5. Satisfyer Double Joy – Affordable C-shape wearable with app control.

Tips for Your First Time

• Communicate: Agree on what you want to try and any “no-go” zones.
• Start Slow: Use toys in foreplay before bringing them into penetration.
• Mind the Fit: For wearables, test different positions to make sure it stays put.
• Use Lube: Friction + vibration can get uncomfortable without it.

Next in the Series:
Part 5 will be Anal Toys 101: Butt Stuff Made Simple, covering plugs, beads, prostate toys, and all the prep you need for a good first experience.

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