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Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys – Part 2

If your only mental image of a dildo is a flesh-colored, vaguely realistic shape, you’re in for a surprise.

Dildos come in every size, color, and texture imaginable; from sleek glass wands to glittery silicone to full-on fantasy tentacles. They can be gentle, intense, artistic, or downright whimsical. And unlike vibrators, they don’t require batteries or charging… just a willing participant and a little imagination.

Here’s your guide to picking your first (or next) dildo, without the overwhelm.

Why Try a Dildo?

• Control: You set the pace, depth, and rhythm.
• Versatility: Can be used solo, with a partner, or with harnesses.
• Silent Play: Perfect for those who don’t want vibration noise.
• Variety: From realistic anatomy to abstract art pieces, there’s something for everyone.

Main Types of Dildos

1. Realistic Dildos

• What They Are: Modeled after actual anatomy; veins, head, and sometimes even texture.
• Best For: People who want a lifelike experience.
• Pros: Familiar look and feel.
• Cons: Not everyone likes the hyper-realistic aesthetic.

2. Non-Realistic / Artistic Dildos

• What They Are: Colorful, stylized, and often more sculptural than anatomical.
• Best For: Those who want playful, beautiful toys.
• Pros: Discreet in appearance; can feel more approachable.
• Cons: May not mimic realistic sensations.

3. Curved / G-Spot Dildos

• What They Are: Designed with a curve to hit the G-spot or prostate.
• Best For: Internal exploration and targeted stimulation.
• Pros: Great for finding and stimulating specific spots.
• Cons: Positioning may take a little practice.

4. Double-Ended Dildos

• What They Are: Long dildos with usable ends for partner play.
• Best For: Partner-to-partner penetration or creative positions.
• Pros: Great for shared fun; visually hot.
• Cons: Can be unwieldy for solo use.

5. Suction Cup Dildos

• What They Are: Base with a suction cup for hands-free play.
• Best For: Solo or partnered play in creative positions.
• Pros: Versatile; sticks to smooth surfaces.
• Cons: Works best on very flat, clean surfaces.

6. Fantasy Dildos

• What They Are: Non-human designs; dragons, tentacles, alien shapes.
• Best For: Fans of roleplay and imaginative play.
• Pros: Unique textures and shapes you can’t get elsewhere.
• Cons: Can be intimidating for beginners.

Materials Matter

• Silicone: Body-safe, non-porous, easy to clean, and comes in endless colors and textures.
• Glass: Smooth, rigid, and great for temperature play.
• Stainless Steel: Heavy, ultra-smooth, and great for pressure play.
• TPE/TPR: Softer, but porous. Requires extra care and is less hygienic long-term.

Pro Tip: Always choose body-safe, non-porous materials for easy cleaning and safety.

Beginner-Friendly Picks

1. Tantus Silk – Slim, smooth silicone perfect for first-timers.
2. Blush Avant D14 – Non-realistic, colorful, and approachable.
3. Njoy Pure Wand – Stainless steel G-spot/prostate favorite.
4. Fun Factory Boss – Curved, firm silicone for G-spot thrills.
5. Bad Dragon Spritz – Small fantasy design for kink-curious beginners.

Tips for First Use

• Use plenty of lube, silicone toys pair best with water-based lube.
• Start slow and let your body adjust.
• Experiment with angles, positions, and temperature play (glass and steel are great for this).
• Clean after each use and store away from other toys to prevent material reactions.

Next in the Series:
Part 3 will be Cock Rings 101: How to Make Good Sex Last Longer, covering everything from stretchy beginner rings to vibrating couples’ favorites.