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Thinking about exploring anal play, but not sure where to start? You’re not alone and you’re not weird. Anal toys are a popular (and totally normal) way to discover new types of pleasure, no matter your gender or orientation.

This beginner-friendly guide covers what you need to know before trying your first anal toy safely, comfortably and confidently.

🎯 Why Try Anal Toys?

The anus is packed with nerve endings, and when stimulated the right way, it can feel amazing. Anal toys can add variety to solo play, spice up partner sex or just help you understand your own body better.

That said, it’s a different experience than vaginal or clitoral play, so a little knowledge goes a long way.

🧸 What Makes a Toy “Anal-Safe”?

Anal toys need to have one key feature: a flared base or a handle. This prevents the toy from slipping all the way inside, which can be dangerous (and embarrassing at the ER).

Safe beginner-friendly options include:

• Small butt plugs with a wide base
• Beaded toys with a loop handle
• Tapered probes with soft silicone

Stay away from toys without a base unless they’re made specifically for anal use.

💦 Use Lube, Always

The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so lube is absolutely essential. Use a high-quality, water-based lube for silicone toys (or silicone-based lube with glass or metal toys).

Don’t skip this step, lube makes everything smoother, safer and far more enjoyable.

🌬️ Go Slow and Relaxed

Anal play should never be rushed, especially the first time. Start with a small, smooth toy (about the size of a fingertip) and let your body adjust. Take deep breaths, go slow and don’t force anything.

Begin in a position where you’re relaxed (like on your side or back), and remember the goal is comfort and pleasure, not speed or performance.

🧼 Cleaning and Aftercare

Clean your toys before and after use with warm water and gentle soap or toy cleaner. If the toy is fully silicone, glass or stainless steel, it may also be boilable or dishwasher-safe (check the label).

Let the toy dry completely before storing and always wash your hands or switch condoms between anal and vaginal play to prevent infection.

🔍 Great Beginner Anal Toys

• Dame Pillo Plug: Soft, squishy, and very beginner-friendly
• B-Vibe Snug Plug 1: Small, weighted, and great for walking around play
• Njoy Pure Plug: Sleek, stainless steel, and highly praised for comfort

Reviews coming soon, keep an eye on our toy review section!

✅ Final Thoughts

Trying anal play for the first time can be exciting, nerve-wracking and totally worth it, if you go into it prepared. Start small, use plenty of lube and be gentle with yourself. It’s not a race, it’s an exploration.

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